Power is part of all sex.
#Me Too in its current avatar in the United States and India singles out one industry – the film industry – with some allied industries coming in – the media, including print media, for example.

The words were first used in 2006 by an African-American woman, Tarana Burke, who was making a point about US society in general. No one took her seriously, of course. A Black woman talking about sexual abuse in society – including Black society – didn’t count for shit.

But a bunch of white actresses made it go global and viral, eleven years later in 2017. There’s sex and power for you, clear and bright. Courageous critics of the movement (and it takes courage to take on a social media full of widgets baying for blood) like Slavoj Zizek have pointed this out.

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Other, even more courageous critics, like Germaine Greer asked why these women kept quiet for all these years, asked how many took paybacks to shut up and are now getting righteous about the ‘abuse.’ She also asked more difficult questions about what constitutes abuse and what these women were screaming about and how it is actually easy for these women to deal with the various kinds of abuse women face in various contexts. Not if you are a woman Dalit garment worker in Karnataka maybe but an actress or wannabe actress? C’mon.

Bhanwari Devi was the pioneering lower caste woman, a saathin (government employee) who was raped by uppercaste goons for doing her job. She fought and continues to fight a long protracted legal battle for justice and it is thanks to her that we have a law against sexual harassment which started out as the Vishakha judgement recommendations.
Bhanwari Devi is the pioneering lower caste woman, a saathin (government employee) who was raped by uppercaste goons for doing her job. She fought and continues to fight a long protracted legal battle for justice and it is thanks to her that we have a law against sexual harassment which started out as the Vishakha judgement recommendations.

Voices more supportive of the movement, like Jacqueline Rose’s, asked us to reflect on how we were reinstating men as all-powerful and women as total victims and completely powerless in the dominant characterisation of #Me Too.
This is the first question we need to ask: are women pure victims? Why did/do they take it? Why did they keep quiet for so long? Why did Tanushree Dutta not lodge a police complaint in 2008 or name the actor in her media complaint back then? Why did those young women take the kind of shit they did from M. J. Akbar? Did they want to survive in the industry, want to make it big and were afraid of ruining their careers? If so, isn’t that a choice they made and don’t they have to live with it?

Second question: All industries are exploitative. Capitalism is exploitative. What is so special about sexual exploitation? It is like those people who say sex work is terrible because it is exploitative. So is ALL wage labour under capitalism. So what? Clearly, there is something special about the sexual that makes us invest so much in it. Is it really more exploitative than all other forms of exploitation? If so, why?

Third question: Developing on that, why is a bodily/sexual violation so special? Isn’t the exploitation of my mind, when I teach all day and make less money than some US backoffice IT idiot in Hi-Tech city, Hyderabad, who learnt his job in the one month training he got on the job and spends most of his day being a BJP troll, way more painful to me than if someone grabbed my butt? All I have to do with the latter is turn around and slap his face. I can’t slap the face of the institution of the University. It has no face.

Fourth question: Why are the victims of #Me Too only women? I am abused sexually on a daily basis on the roads, homophobically attacked in institutions, office spaces and colleges all my life, denied jobs, thrown out of others. In fact, most of my abusers have been women. Women egging on their boyfriends to abuse me (‘Dekh, dekh chakka hain,’ on the Delhi Metro), women staring, women laughing, women pushing me resentfully as they walk by. I was put on a list of straight men by a woman who has never ever met me and never provided a shred of evidence for my needing to be on that list. If I have to be on a list, surely it would have to be on a list produced by men, not a woman? What about hijras, every moment of whose lives is a # Me Too moment: harassment by gurus, the police, clients, men in general, women, children. Why is there no hijra #Me Too movement?

Fifth question: When does a bad date (Aziz Ansari) turn into a #Me Too moment? When does a relationship gone wrong turn into a # Me Too moment? When does a consensual sexual act turn into a # Me Too moment?

3 Responses

  1. Why didn’t they speak for so long?
    According to National Association for People Abused in Childhood the average time for a victim to speak out is 22 years after the last incidence of abuse, but it can be much, much longer.
    Disclosure is not an event but a process.
    Many factors are at play in enabling or constraining the victim/survivor to speak directly about abuse and bringing that complaint to the attention of the authorities- family, society.
    Some of these causes for delay are :
    -The age and development of the victim/survivor (minors, children sometimes take even longer), this could also be true about co-dependence on the abuser.
    -the relationship of the victim/survivor to the perpetrator (testimony against someone famous, someone people trust/respect, or a family member becomes delayed due to the fear he/she will be believed not me
    -the severity of the abuse also affects delay in reporting, in misogynist cultures violence is normalised so much that anything short of rape is not even considered violation at times.
    – the availability of support dynamically shape the disclosure process, if and when the victim/survivor knows he/she will be heard,trusted and supported they speak freely.
    – Internalising of guilt, trying to bury the memory of abuse to move on though the psychological effects remain in form of anxiety and other PTSD symptoms.Recalling can also act as a trigger so victim/survivor doesn’t want to remember or recall it.


    Why is sexual exploitation different? Because it directly derides a person’s bodily autonomy , reproductive rights and right of sexual expression.

    Sexual violation isn’t special- but cultural norms and morality deem so that often we blame the victim/survivor ( like is happening here) and not the perpetrator.

    Who says victims are only women? Majority is women because
    1. Majority men in power are heterosexual and more likely to exploit a woman sexually than a men.
    2. Men are victims too, so many men came out with their stories of sexual abuse too after this, so did people who identify themselves as non-binary.

    Sexual violation is not just a “bad moment”, CONSENT is progressive, it isn’t a blanket consent forever and for all sexual acts, when a survivor says NO and it isn’t hears or adhered to that’s when #MeToo begins.

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