The awkward case of conversations around sexual health

A friend called me up recently, stricken with panic. She had been on a date with a guy she has been attracted to and ended up having unprotected sex with him. She didn’t have a condom and she couldn’t muster up the courage to ask the man if he had one. Her vagina had developed […]

My Thirties are Sexy!

“In youth we learn; in age we understand.” – Ebner-EschenbachI recently celebrated my 34th birthday. A friend wished me ‘Happy growing old.’ I remember the year I turned thirty. I felt sad bidding adieu to my twenties as if I was parting from a loved one, never to see him again. However, I love this […]

What is Sex?

Inscription SEX on the Mirror

When someone says sex is overrated, I am tempted to ask what they mean by it. If we look at it that way, everything in life is overrated, except air and water. In the way that we desire to give life meaning through relationships, work, art and whatnot, we tend to give sex some meaning. […]

Love in Times of Emotional Repression

It was on my solo travel across Himachal two years ago that I learnt about Tinder. I ran into a young girl during the trip who asked me once, ‘How do you meet new people? Tinder?’ I was perplexed. I had no idea what the word meant. I have never been a very social-media friendly […]

Sex isn’t a Casual Sport

Ever had that feeling where you made a complete fool of yourself? We all know the answer to that. It has taken a great deal of introspection and a tumultuous inner journey for me to realize what I want and seek when it comes to relationships. After my last relationship, I had been afraid to […]

When I didn’t yield to the temptation

In the middle of the day, I message my friend, ‘I saw that man today, you know who. All I want is that kiss. I can’t focus.’ She replies, ‘Snap out. Snap out.’ The man in question is someone I slept with a few months ago. I had known him for a while. I felt […]

Are you a sexual being?

I am an extremely sexual person. What is the first thought that crosses your mind when I say this? Sex, sexual, sexuality – any word that has sex in it is considered taboo. We fail to understand and acknowledge that sexuality is a fundamental part of our being. It is a part of who we are […]

My First Soulgasm

I didn’t enter into my twenties alone. I entered them with my best friend turned lover who lived more than 2000 kilometres away. We would be on the phone all night long, talking and longing for each other. I used to wait for his yearly visits to his home – the city where I lived. […]

The Journey of Acceptance of my Sexuality

I didn’t know for a long time that it was okay to want sex. That it was fine to desire men (in the plural). That it was natural to feel the fire of passion burning inside me when my body wanted sex. That it was alright to want more sex than the man I was […]

Love Bites – The Necklace Made by My Lover’s Teeth

“What’s on your neck?” asked my friend who was sitting next to me in my writing class. She was referring to the plush red mark engraved on the side of my neck. I smiled as she announced to the class, “She has a hickey!” I was named as the ‘hickey girl’ then. I didn’t mind […]