I am a sex coach and I often get approached for help by many men / women who are
struggling with sexual issues. However, when I ask them to bring their partner they say, their partner doesn’t want to come because they don’t believe in sex therapy or sex counseling. Sex therapy and sex counseling does not have the same awareness and acceptance as any other field of medicine has. For ex: Dermatology, Cardiology, Pulmonogy and many other disciplines of medicine as well as wellness practices such as acupuncture, yoga, nutrition etc. But sex therapy, or sex coaching is vitally important for sexual wellbeing of a person.
So in this article, I will explain what sex therapy or sex coaching is, what it is not, and how it can benefit you.
Sex Therapy is awesome. It is just like another type of therapy. It is a coach, psychologist, or counselor who is especially trained to deal with sexual problems. You go to their office / virtual session either as an individual or a couple and you try to work through these things.
This might include:
- sex education
- training about bedroom communication
- working on past history of infidelity or sexual trauma
There are all types of things that people talk about in sex therapy. A session with a sex therapist or a sex coach is a special, protected space to talk about one’s sexual problems.
Now let me give you a hint of what a sexual problem is. A sexual problem is an issue occurring in a person’s sex life. Let me share a few examples of real life sexual issues that my users have shared with me:
“My Partner hesitate doing few things which makes me less excited during sex. Sometimes this impacts my performance.”
“I am having a lot of trouble in my married life I had a habit of masturbating before marriage but after marriage I have masturbated many times I have some special problems like (1) premature ejaculation within 20/30 seconds (2) even if I want to have sex for the 2nd time, it takes about 40 mins to get excited. (3) Many times I am having sex but suddenly my body goes numb then I feel very shy and I feel like a complete coward.”
“I am interested in sexual fantasy. But I am hurting the feelings of my girlfriend by speaking about the sexual fantasies during sex. I love my girlfriend and like to value her feelings and stop hurting her. I need to fix it before I am getting married.”
What sex therapy isn’t is touching the client or any sexual activity with the client. There is nothing physical that goes on between a sex coach and their client in therapy. It is just talking, communicating, and working through problems. Your sex therapist can also give you some homework to do at home either individually or with your partner in order to improve whatever you are working on.
If you are hitting some roadblocks in your sex life and there are some troubling thoughts looming in the back of your mind about your sex life, then you should visit a sex therapist. At GetIntimacy, we have a panel of sexperts who have adequate training in this really sensitive Field.
So in short, don’t be scared of sex therapy and if you need one, go ahead and take an appointment today. There is no need to wait!
