What We Teach Boys About Love & Sex
Kiran (name changed) grew up with a lot of curiosity about love, relationships and sex. “I experienced attraction very young, maybe third or fourth grade. It was often very strong, and I wanted to understand what I was feeling.” The only time he caught a glimpse of these things was in Bollywood movies. But living […]
A limited introduction to the world of Fetishes, and what you may misunderstand.
There’s something about the word itself that makes us recoil- fetish. In our society, it’s difficult as is to talk about sex openly. If at all we must discuss our proclivities, they have to fall in line with the mainstream narrative of sex, which is to say, a heterosexual, penetrative, and otherwise unremarkable type of […]
What is emotional cheating, and how do I know it’s happening to me?
When I was cheated on the first time, it was easy. Don’t get me wrong, I was devastated, furious, betrayed- maybe it helped somewhat that this wasn’t the most the serious relationship I’d ever been in, or would ever be in- but I got over it because I knew who to blame. Of course, our […]
So what’s the deal with virtual sex?
Is it any fun? Should you be doing it? Why, why not? DICLAIMER: Please be safe online, don’t engage in virtual sex unless you are 18+, and remember that consent is as important online as it is in person. Be safe and have fun! Virtual sex or Cyber sex has been around for […]
Complaint is a longing for connection
A client of mine once shared his marriage travails with me: When I change the TV Serial channel to some other channel, my wife fights with me. Having complaints about each other in a relationship is normal. The problem arises when you have the same complaint over and over again for your partner. A lingering […]
Building The Emotional Bank Account Of Your Relationship
Most of us work to live our cherished dreams of having our own house, buying our favorite food, funding the studies of our kids, and other essentials of livelihood. Tracking our physical needs is a relatively easier task. But most of us are clueless when it comes to finding “fulfillment” in our intimate relationships. Yes, […]
3 Subtle Signs of Unhealthy Relationships
We all want love. We all long for love. Love is at the core of everything we do if we think about it. But despite being a universally practiced and felt emotion, love has not been talked about in the real sense. Barring the artificially curated social media posts and what we see on TV, […]
4 Tips for Solving Couple Conflicts
How many times have we fought in our intimate relationships with our partners? Definitely more than a few times. Conflict in itself is not unhealthy, as it allows us to look at the areas of the relationship that needs the most attention. A conflict about your partner not helping in housework highlights the feeling of […]
Principles for Handling Couple Misunderstandings
Misunderstandings are a common occurrence in most relationships, and my own love life is no different. When I look around, I see that fights often erupt because of different or mismatching perspectives of looking at the same issue. Yes, these are some of the commonly heard grievances that couples voice out against each other. “I […]