I am Pallavi Barnwal, sex coach
Today I want to take an opportunity to clear something up:
I need this to do because of the sheer increase in no. of sexless marriages, sexually dissatisfying relationships, and sexual dysfunctions I am seeing of late. For ex: this female community member shared:
“Hi, I am married and caught up in a 9-7 job. I also had almost sexless marriage. Sex wasn’t important I thght but after I had my baby I realised how I was depriving myself of sex. Now through you I am learning and unlearning and empowering myself so that I can give proper guidance do my child. Thanks for creating such a space.”
Just like she shared that educating herself on sex made a difference in her situation, all sexual issues boil down to how we define and understand sex:
A lot of times when people say sex, they mean penis and vagina sex and that is called intercourse. So, this means, for sex to happen, intercourse must happen.
This is the root cause of all $exual problems
If we redefine $ex as I do in my professional practice as a $ex coach and in my personal $ex life with my husband, most of these problems will be solved.
So how do we redefine $ex
When I say $ex, I am talking about any experience with your partner that increases the intimacy and brings pleasure.
This could be :
- Touching
- F0replay
- Oral X
- Inter-c0urse
It doesn’t even have to involve an 0rgasm.
$ex is just any interaction that increases intimacy and brings you and your partner pleasure Intimacy is so important in a relationship because it helps us to increase our bond with our partner and it differentiates the other relationships that we have in our life like our friends, colleagues, parents, from the relationship we have with our romantic partner.
I want to further add on why you should want sex. Well because there are so many benefits of sex. There are both relational benefits and personal benefits.
The relational benefits are they increase the intimacy and bond between you and your partner. They might be a funny moment that you share, romancing each other in the bed etc.
These shared experiences can go a long way in continuing to water the garden of special relationship that we share with our partner.
There are also tons of personal benefits of sex. I want you to think of sex as differently, not as a chore or as an obligation but as something you do for yourself. The personal benefits of sex are:
- Sex as exercise
- Sex as stress relief
- Sex as self-care
- Sex improves your self-esteem and connection with your body
So in this era of self-care, let’s add sex to the list. Sex is one of the healthiest ways to feelgood. In summary, you will find remembering the many benefits of sex will help you so much as you continue on this journey with GetIntimacy
