Dear Men,
You would have heard about going for a walk with a friend, or a partner, but did you get confused what going for a walk with a penis means?
Your penis. Your all-time companion, the symbol of your masculinity, the tool for your pleasure, the site harboring some of the worst anxieties about size and performance; the topic for gossip among friends.
There is so much more to penis but most often people link penis with intercourse and therefore pressure to perform.
Some conversation snippets of men on their penises from my sex positive group Pleasure Talks.
“Initially during the days of dating and exploring sex, i have always shied away from showing ex partners, my flaccid penis. However after an intimate conversation with my wife I found out that she likes to see it flaccid and soft as much as hard and erect. She also told me that she found a sense of pride when watching my manhood grow right in front of her eyes”
“In my opinion, the penis is very misunderstood.
Sometimes, we are just sitting in a bus or on the office chair (no sexual thoughts in the mind), and suddenly we get a ‘hard on.’
This is sometimes considered as bad and causes a lot of shame.”
Most men do not have a developed relationship with their penis
They see penis as a tool of conquest or to get a quick release. But penis is more than a sexual organ. Your penis is a part of your male identity, its how you enjoy physical pleasure, and it’s a life giving force and hence it is important for you to deepen your relationship with your penis.
Take your penis for a walk
Seriously! I mean it guys
You might think it’s an absurd thought, but do you remember going on a walk with a loved one is one of the friendly things you do. Similarly, it’s time to establish friendship and connection with your penis.
Penis confidence starts outside the bedroom. Take your penis for a walk.
As you go out, be aware of your penis. If it is a sunny day, and you feel the warmth of the sun on your body, notice your penis feeling it too. When you enjoy your coffee and feel the stimulating sensations traveling down your stomach, notice your penis enjoying it too. When you feel the power of lifting weights or gym workout on your muscles, have your penis feel the power too. When you’re cheering for an IPL team in a cricket match and getting excited about the win, feel your penis cheering too. When you’re sharing a laugh with your friends over a glass of beer, your penis laughs along with you. When you’re feeling serious and reflective, your penis is thoughtful too.
Your penis will become a partner in pleasure
This might sound strange but it’s an excellent way to get connected with your penis and start seeing it as living being. Rather than it being an out-of-control sexual part with a mind of its own, it will become your partner in pleasure. You and your penis will be a team.
Our sexual parts are not just fleshy parts capable of arousal, they have a full range of feelings, desires, hope, and fears. This activity will bring your penis to life, and you will become a proud penis owner.
The positive impact of penis connection on lovemaking
Then, when you’re having sex with your woman, your penis will be on your side, you’ll be connected to your penis; you’ll truly be present in your penis. Which means:
- You can regulate your desire managing rising sexual frustration
- You can prolong your arousal, lasting longer in bed and
- Your penis intensity will match what your woman wants thus having sex painfree
The effects of penis connection don’t just limit to your penis. In fact, you’ll be connected to your whole body – and you’ll feel a lot more. When you’re connected and present with your penis, you are fully connected and present within yourself and thus you can connect a lot better with your woman, and she’ll feel it too.
Then sex becomes truly awesome.
Ladies! You can also take your imaginary penis for a walk
I will say even women can do this activity and should do this.
It’s a good experience to try and imagine that you have a penis and walk around with it for a while.
What do you notice as you do this?
Probably the first thing you will do is you will start walking with your legs a bit wider!
When I get women to do this in my art of intimacy workshop, they are often surprised at how real it feels and how vulnerable it feels. Women get that it is a different emotional and physical experience of being a penis owner than being a vulva owner. For ex: women are not used to their genitals being exposed and thus it feels a shock to them to imagine carrying one outward sexual creature on their body.
Most women have told me that doing this activity has changed the way they look at penises: they feel less strange, less scary and more approachable. They feel a tenderness and respect towards the penis that wasn’t there before. Try it.
