Today, I will talk about medibation which is the practice of masturbation + meditation.
Masturbation is a loaded word in our society
Despite a healthy form of intimacy with one’s body, masturbation is looked down upon and seen as a mere urge release, which is why masturbation does not get public endorsement and most people either JUDGE masturbation thinking it’s a dirty and sinful act or FEEL GUILTY that they masturbate. I have not seen anyone coming out in open and say proudly:
“Hey today I masturbated”
And I don’t think it’s just privacy, we share a lot of private things on social media including the fact that we went to spa, sauna but then why we refrain from talking about masturbation?
There is an element of shame here, whether we agree or not!
How we disregard masturbation
Most people treat masturbation as a functional release. Do the act till you reach that climax. Some people have a lot of shame about masturbation or consider it a form of cheating if you are in a relationship. I have wives reaching out to me asking, my partner masturbates, is it okay or I feel he does it because he is not attracted to me.
Others feel like it is an inferior form of sex, only to be done when you are single and desperate.
Read this real single man story who dmd me:
“I think that I’m in dire need for help concerning my sexual appetite.
Could you please help me with some advice. I feel that I have a high sexual libido & sex is on my mind pretty much all the time.
I’m unmarried. I had a girlfriend earlier with whom I had lot of sex and was satisfied. But we are no longer together & its very depressing for me because I’m tired of masturbating watching lot of porn.”
Even as our culture gets more comfortable with sex out of marriage, casual sex, gay sex and kinky sex, masturbation still has a lot of stigma around it.
Your shame on masturbation comes from your childhood
On top of the social stigma, masturbation is burdened by our childhood upbringing. Most of our masturbation scripts are established during childhood or teenage years in less-favorable circumstances. If you are in an Indian family, I am sure you weren’t given loving permission to explore your own body and physical pleasure. Most young boys discover masturbation under the shroud of shame, desperately rushing through it to avoid being caught, hiding the evidence and being as quiet as possible. Most girls are clueless about anything like this exists, and rest follow the same pattern as young boys.
These patterns stick with you and as an adult you will still feel these childhood feelings – of rushing, of guilt or fear of discovery.
These feelings can be vague since your underlying belief formed during childhood is masturbation is wrong or sinful. But this is what limits the pleasure and exploration of most people. Most people masturbate hurriedly, in the same way – the same strokes, the same positions, the same fantasies. But,
Masturbation is a channel to your self-discovery
Let me simplify this, masturbation is how we touch our body and our sexual parts to feel pleasure. However, if we add the depth and awareness to this practice, we can derive much more benefits from masturbation.
Get meditation benefits from your masturbation activity
We can do better for ourselves! Its time to change the old script and learn something new about masturbation. To begin with, lets rephrase it to mindful solo sex or mindful masturbation. Mindful solo sex offers an expansive path that can help you:
- Discover a new way to touch yourself
- Experiment with new levels of arousal and new kinds of sensation
- Get the chance to confront your habitual thoughts and distractions.
- Learn how to focus your attention inward and
- Discover how sensations can be amplified through mindful breath work.
- As you practice solo mindful sex, you can then bring these skills into partnered sex.
How to do Mindful masturbation practice | Medibation
Medibation is the practice of doing masturbation as a meditation. You know that sitting meditation is altogether different than simply sitting. When you add elements of meditation (focused awareness + presence) to any practice be it singing, dancing, cooking, reading, walking etc. the experience you receive becomes deeper and fulfilling.
Framing masturbation as more than simply a functional release of sexual tension and incorporating meditation into masturbation is a useful reminder that you are creating a special, important and meaningful experience for yourself. Mindful solo sex is different than “jerking off”
You don’t have to practice solo mindful sex every time you masturbate – sometimes it might be just right to get off as quickly as possible.
But practicing mindful solo sex will give you a new and important experience.
My personal practice of medibation
For me self-touch is a spiritual practice, I do mindful self-touch to empty my cluttered mind and renew my tired body. It is my go to ritual, medibation (masturbation + meditation). How I do it? Let me share few simple steps on this:
- I approach medibation (masturbation + meditation) the same way I approach any meditation
- I focus on my breathing and sensations on my body
- I do not let my mind drift off fantasies
- I do not carry any end goal, nor do I try to achieve anything more than being completely present in the moment.
Benefits of medibation (masturbation + meditation)
- Medibation strengthens your ability to stay present and alert in your body
- Medibation connects your sex to your soul, making sex a spiritual experience
- Great medibators are great lovers because they see body and touch as a divine experience and thus can approach their partner’s body with same divinity
I encourage you to medibate daily!
In case, you want to learn the exact steps of doing medibation, signup for my online recorded course, mindful masturbation.
Remember! We can do better for ourselves! Mindful solo sex offers an expansive path that can help you discover a new way to touch yourself, experiment with new levels of arousal and new kinds of sensation. You get the chance to confront your habitual thoughts and distractions. You learn how to focus your attention inward and discover how sensations can be amplified through mindful breath work. As you practice solo mindful sex, you can then bring these skills into partnered sex.
